Picking a therapist can feel a little like a blind date you're also supposed to interview. You want to know if this person is the right fit, but asking questions can feel pushy, or like you're not sure you're "allowed." You are, and a good therapist expects it.
Quick answer: A therapy consultation is your chance to ask about approach, logistics, and fit before committing to anything. Good questions to bring: how they work with your specific concern, what a typical session looks like, their cost and insurance details, and how they handle the hard-to-talk-about stuff. There's no wrong question here.
Questions about approach and fit
Ask what they actually do in session, not just their theoretical orientation. "What does a typical session with you look like?" and "Have you worked with people dealing with [your specific concern] before?" tell you more than a list of credentials ever could. You're also allowed to ask how they'd describe their style: direct, gentle, structured, exploratory. There's no right answer, only what fits you.
Questions about logistics
Cover the practical ground early so it's not a surprise later: session cost, whether they take your insurance (and what that actually covers), session length and frequency, cancellation policy, and whether they offer telehealth. It's completely reasonable to ask about all of this on a first call, before you've shared anything personal. Our rates and insurance page answers most of these for Crescita.
Questions that show how they'll handle the hard stuff
If trauma, anxiety, or something you've never said out loud is part of why you're reaching out, ask directly: "How do you approach trauma work?" or "What happens if I need to slow down or stop mid-session?" Their answer tells you whether they'll let you set the pace, which matters more than any specific technique.
Green flags and red flags on a consult call
Green flags: they ask about you as much as you ask about them, answer logistics questions clearly, and don't rush you toward booking. Red flags: vague answers about their approach, pressure to commit on the spot, or a sense that your questions are unwelcome. Trust that reaction. It's useful data.
Common questions
Is it rude to interview more than one therapist?
Not at all. Most therapists expect it and won't take it personally. Fit matters more than loyalty to whoever you called first.
What if I don't know what kind of therapy I need?
That's normal, and it's not your job to diagnose your own treatment plan. Describe what's going on and how it's affecting you. A good therapist will help you figure out the rest.
How long is a consultation call?
Ours run about 20 minutes, enough time to cover fit and logistics without it turning into a full session.
Do I have to commit after the consult?
No. A consultation is information-gathering, not a contract. It's completely fine to think it over or talk to someone else first.
What if it feels awkward asking these questions?
A little awkwardness is normal, and it fades fast. Most therapists are used to it and would rather you ask than wonder.
Bring this list with you
If you've been putting off that first call because you're not sure what to say, bring this checklist. Once you've booked, here's what to expect at your first session. Reach out whenever you're ready. There's no pressure to have it all figured out first. Book a free 20-minute call.
